Are you playing to gain or are you playing to not lose? Just started reading this book recently called Focus by Heidi Grand Halvorson, and E. Tory Higgins.
I talks about 2 types of focus
- Prevention based
- Gain Based
We’re more of one than the other and depending how we are raised is which one we are, if you’re raised in a prevention based type of environment you do thing to Prevent something to happen like get a whoopin by the belt, a Gain base environment is one where you get rewarded for doing something!
This transfers into our adult life as we grow up and helps/holds us back, it also transfers into our listening skill and other things I talk about in the video. check it out and subscribe 🙂