Are you playing to gain or are you playing to not lose? Just started reading this book recently called Focus by Heidi Grand Halvorson, and E. Tory Higgins.

I talks about 2 types of focus

  1. Prevention based
  2. Gain Based

We’re more of one than the other and depending how we are raised is which one we are, if you’re raised in a prevention based type of environment you do thing to Prevent something to happen like get a whoopin by the belt, a Gain base environment is one where  you get rewarded for doing something!

This transfers into our adult life as we grow up and helps/holds us back, it also transfers into our listening skill and other things I talk about in the video. check it out and subscribe 🙂